I
was watching a British detective show, Inspector Lewis, on PBS last
night. The story centered around the issue of homosexuality and the church. The
Christians were depicted as stuffy, closed, spiteful people. The gays were
depicted as loving and compassionate. Because of the influence of a church
program, a young, gay man committed suicide. This led to a series of related
murders, as each of the Christians was eliminated. Near the end of the story, Sergeant
Hathaway reveals that he was, in part, responsible for this young man’s
suicide. The two had been friends when Hathaway was studying to become a
priest. The young man had come to Hathaway for advice regarding his
homosexuality. Hathaway had told him that he would be condemned for his sin. Because
of that encounter, Hathaway left seminary and went into police work.
I
came away from that show feeling discouraged. I was discouraged because of the
way the Christians were depicted. But, I was even more discouraged, because
Hathaway had spoken the truth, but in a way that caused harm, instead of
healing. Neither side in this scenario were virtuous. Both sides were
vindictive and abrasive. Yet the Christians came off as the real villains.
It
raises the issue for me of how do we speak the truth in love? That phrase is
taken from Ephesians 4. To understand what it means, we need to look at it in its
context.
It was
he who gave some to be apostles, some to be prophets, some to be evangelists,
and some to be pastors and teachers, to prepare God's people for works of
service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in
the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining
to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.
Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back
and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and
by the cunning and craftiness of men in their deceitful scheming. Instead,
speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the
Head, that is, Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by
every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part
does its work. Ephesians 4:11-16
If
we are going to speak the truth in love, we need to first become spiritually
mature. It is the job of the church to train and equip people in Christ-like
living. This is based on the solid foundation of the truth of the gospel and a
vital relationship with Jesus Christ. Too often, we settle for a superficial, naïve
faith, rather than a full, deep faith. We teach simple, Sunday School answers
to complex issues, which may make us feel good, but fail to connect with the
real world around us. A true sign of maturity is being able to deal
appropriately with complex issues.
If
we are going to speak the truth in love, we need to understand our culture.
Many Christians today are confused, frightened and disoriented by our culture.
For good reason, they see it as a threat to our faith. Yet, we are bombarded by
skillfully created publicity programs that obscure the core issues and put
Christians on the defense. Many people, who are marginal in their faith, or have
no faith at all, are swayed by these slick public opinion campaigns. We need
godly discernment to understand how to approach people with understanding and
compassion.
If
we are going to speak the truth in love, we need to see people through Jesus’
eyes. Jesus never wavered on the truth, yet treated everyone with respect and
compassion. He was able to address significant and difficult issues head on,
because people trusted Him. They knew that He genuinely loved them, so they
were willing to listen when He spoke. If we want people to listen to us, we
need to demonstrate that we genuinely care about them. Instead of attacking
them, we need to come along side of them and love them in the name of Jesus.
That doesn’t mean that we excuse their sin or soft-pedal the issues. It does
mean that we approach the issues with compassion, instead of anger.
No
matter what we do, if we speak the truth, people will be offended and fight
against us. We can choose to be aggressive and argumentative, which might make
us feel righteous, but will only build higher walls. Or, we can choose to speak
the truth in love. We will not tear down all the walls, but we will also not
add bricks to the top layer. The way that we approach those who disagree with
us will either close the door of communication or open a door of dialog.
Paul’s
instructions to the Colossians is still a good game plan for us today. Be wise in the way you act toward
outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always
full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.
Colossians 4:5-6
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