I am a reader. It is the primary way that I
stimulate my spiritual and personal growth. I have been intentional about
reading a broad spectrum of authors. When I find an author that I like, I try
to read as much from that author as I can. But I also read authors that I know
I will disagree with. I need them to challenge my thinking and unsettle my
perspective. Over the years, I have greatly benefited from being an
intentional reader.
I
was not always an intentional reader. As a young boy, I did not find reading
easy, so I did not cultivate that skill. I had an unmarried aunt who lived with
us. She was an avid reader and always tried to get her nephews to be readers.
Sadly, she passed away before I embraced the joy and the value of reading. It
wasn’t until I left Seminary that I began intentionally reading for both
pleasure and enrichment. One of the tricks that I use to motivate myself is
setting a goal to read twelve ministry related books a year, one a month. For
some people, that is not a stretch. For me, it was a real challenge. I am happy
to say that it has become a regular part of my life. Most years I go far beyond
my goal.
I
tell you all of this because today, while I was reading a particularly
challenging section in a book, I realized a trap that I can fall into. I have
been aware of this trap for many years, but this morning I became aware that I
was standing on the edge of it again. I call this trap the chameleon syndrome.
Chameleons
have the ability to physically adapt their appearance to blend in with their
surroundings. Their ability to camouflage themselves in this way is a survival
skill that serves them well. It is a skill that we as humans can develop,
except the outcome is no so positive. We can become so skilled at adapting who
we are to other people’s expectations, for the purpose of fitting in, that we
can lose touch with who we really are.
As I
was reading this morning, I realized again how I can unconsciously begin to
adapt myself to the expectations of the author that I am reading or to the
group of people I am trying to lead. It begins with a challenge to my current
status quo. That in itself is not a bad thing. But it can quickly move to an
attempt to conform to someone else’s image. As I look back over my life, I can
identify many times when I tried to be a human chameleon. The more that I
slipped into chameleon mode, the less awareness I had of who God created me to
be. I found myself shifting my persona with every persuasive voice that was
speaking loudly in my ear. The outcome was a very confused person.
The
Bible often warns us against being double minded. We are to allow the Holy
Spirit to lead us toward thinking godly thoughts and letting go of the world’s
influence. But when we fall into chameleon mode, we are exhibiting hyper-double
mindedness. In order to please everyone who comes across our path, we have to
continually adjust to their expectations. This doesn’t have to be in the realm
of worldly expectations. It can happen within the Body of Christ as we shift
our outward actions to conform to each new voice.
There
is a familiar passage in Romans 12:1-3 that can be applied to the chameleon
syndrome. Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your
bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual
act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be
transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and
approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.
For
by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more
highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in
accordance with the measure of faith God has given you.
As
we yield our lives completely to Christ, we are to embrace a new reality. There
are two key elements to becoming the person Christ wants us to be. First, we
need to stop trying to conform to all of the outside pressures around us. Most
of us can see how this applies when we look at the value system of the world.
Most of us are blind to the pressure to become like our favorite preacher,
author, or leader. This is especially true for pastors and other Christian
leaders. We flock to the popular seminars, then go home and try to duplicate
what was presented. This lasts only until the next book we read or the next
conference we attend. Then we have to shift to conform to that.
The
second thing we need to do is strive to gain a clear understanding of who God
made us to be. God did not create us to be spiritual chameleons. God created
each of us as unique individuals, in unique circumstances. He does not want us
to be arrogant and over emphasize our uniqueness. He also does not want us to
under value who He created us to be. If we have an inflated view of who we are,
we expect everyone else to be like us. If we under value who we are, we try to
be like everyone else. Neither approach is pleasing to God.
The antidote
to the chameleon syndrome is discernment. We need to be humble enough to listen to what
others have to say to us. We need to be wise enough to make appropriate
adjustments that fit with who God made us to be. We have to have both the
courage and the awareness to resist the temptation to conform simply to fit in
with whatever the current popular trend happens to be.
It
is time to shed our artificial skin of conformity and embrace who we really
are.
Philippians 1:9-11
And
this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and
depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be
pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of
righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ--to the glory and praise of God.
Thanks for sharing! I faced the CHAMELEON SYNDROME in a different way: A few months back I was at the gas station and then suddenly I saw a homeless guy going through trash cans and eating food from the trash cans. That really bothered me and I went and got him a sandwich and water bottle. Later, I had a conversation with a few coworkers and, they said "yeah, they do that intentionally". So, today I was at gas station again and same thing happened. This time though I ignored that person and decided not to make any eye connect. I felt good because I thought I am not gonna let someone take advantage of me. But, looking back at it now, I think I should have offered help and stayed true to myself and what I believe. Galatians 6:2: "Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ."
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