Everyone
wants to be valued in some way. There is a deep longing within each of us to be
appreciated and to feel validated. Everyone wants to know that their life
counts for something. No one wants to be a cipher, a zero, a non-entity.
There
are times when our sense of being valued is high. At those times we feel
confident, competent, and courageous. There are other times when our sense of
being valued is low. At those times we feel uncertain, hesitant, and incompetent.
I have experienced both. Most of the time we live somewhere in the middle with
the nagging question in the back of our mind; am I good enough?
Over
the years, I have talked with many people who have struggled with a sense of
their value. They have often expressed to me the same sentiment; “I am not good
enough.” This tends to be a
self-defeating attitude. The person is really giving up before they ever try.
They have already determined that they are of no value. That only fuels a
downward spiral of self-pity. We need to be honest about where those feelings
come from. They do not come from God. They come from the Evil One. Satan, the
Great Accuser, loves to whisper destructive untruths in our ears. “You are not
good enough. You will never make it. You don’t have what it takes. Why try? You
are going to fail anyway.”
The
Bible gives us a very different message. The Bible tells us that we are of
great value to God, because we have been created in His image. Our worth is not
dependent upon what we can do or how well we can perform. Our worth is based on
our relationship with God in Christ. God loves us so much that He sent Jesus
into this sinful, fallen world to rescue and redeem us. When Satan whispers those
corrosive words in our ear, “you are not good enough”, we need to remind
ourselves of God’s truth.
We are loved with an inexhaustible love.
One of the ways that we feel valued is by receiving the love of others. We experience
that love through the relationships that we have. Those may come in the form of
family or friends. For some people, that sense of being loved can come from a
pet. We usually take this experience for granted until it disappears. A family
member dies. A friend moves away. A pet dies. What is left behind is an
emotional hole.
The
one thing that can fill that whole is to embrace the love of God. When we put
our faith in Christ, we can experience God’s overflowing love. It is when we
embrace the love that God has given to us that we can then love others well.
The more we actively receive God’s love, the more we can share that love freely
with those around us.
I
pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through
his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through
faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have
power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and
deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses
knowledge--that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
Ephesians 3:16-19
How great is the love the Father has lavished
on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The
reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him. 1 John
3:1
This is love: not that we loved God, but
that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear
friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 1
John 4:10-11
We do not have to prove ourselves to God.
Whether we want to admit it or not, we are always trying to prove our worth.
That is why some of us work long hours, take on extra responsibility, and over
fill our lives with activities. Unconsciously we are trying to say to the
world, I am valuable.
For
way too long I tried to prove my worth to God. To put a label on it, I bought
into works righteousness. I felt like I had to do certain things for God to
accept me. Therefore, I had my unwritten list of do’s and don’ts; my spiritual
checklist by which I could show God that I was worthy of His love and
acceptance. The problem was that I never felt like I was doing enough or was
good enough.
The
good news is that we do not have to prove ourselves to God. I don’t mean that
God doesn’t care about how we live our lives. He does. What I mean is that we
live good lives as a response to the acceptance that we have already received
in Christ. God knows all about us; good, bad and ugly. Through our faith in
Christ, God has applied Christ’s righteousness to our account. Because we have
been justified through Christ, we are free to live wholeheartedly for Christ,
without fear.
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for
those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the
Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death. Romans 8:1-2
We
are capable of doing whatever God calls us to do. Even when we feel
loved and accepted by God, a sense of inadequacy can still remain. We know all
of our weaknesses and failures. They loom large in our eyes. Satan wants us to believe
that these disqualify us from service. He says something like this. “ Face it.
You don’t have what it takes. Why try? You know you are just going to fail
anyway. You are not smart enough, skilled enough, good enough to be a success.”
God
has an answer to Satan’s accusations. “I know all about your inadequacies. But
I will give you what you need to not only overcome them, but to succeed.” One
of the most basic truths we need to hold onto is, when God calls us into
service, He equips us for service. Every leader in the Bible, from Moses to the
Apostle Paul, felt inadequate to the task set before them. Yet God used all of
them in amazing ways. God is never hindered by our lack of skill. Bit His is
hindered by our lack of will.
Such
confidence as this is ours through Christ before God. Not that we are competent in ourselves to
claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. He has made us competent as ministers of a new
covenant--not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the
Spirit gives life. 2 Corinthians 3:4-6
I know what it is to be in need, and I know
what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any
and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in
want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength. Philippians
4:12-13
All
of us want to be valued. We all struggle with this desire from time to time.
When we are feeling less than worthy, we need to remember that our worth is
secure. It comes primarily from our relationship with God and only secondarily through
our abilities and our human relationships. To buy into the idea that “I am not
good enough” is an affront to God’s love and grace.
Ephesians 2:10
For
we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God
prepared in advance for us to do.
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